and after gathering last month under dark skies and around toasty beverages, we decided to offer some activity suggestions for people suffering from the Northwest Winter Blues.
I miraculously have not been affected this year by the weather, I’ve actually found it quite enjoyable and mild. However, I know that’s not the case for a lot of people who reside in Portland, so PBR thought it a great idea to brainstorm a few ways people can escape their hopelessness, put on some NON-sweat pants, and discover that the world continues to rotate even if the rain hasn’t stopped in 2 weeks.
A few different activities came to mind for this blog post, including the NW Film Festival going on through Sunday, February 29th 2016, or a hike around the Smith and Bybee Wetlands. However, what I ended up doing surprised even myself… I joined Tinder, and went on a date!
I have never participated in or joined an online dating service before. This is all brand new to me. I was apprehensive creating a profile (if you can even call it that) and adding pictures, because I was exposing access to myself to complete strangers.
In the 2 weeks that I had my account, I made about 20 matches with people. This means that as I swiped through my “playing cards” of people, I liked a person’s profile and they liked mine back. This gave us the opportunity to text/chat within the app itself, and I had a few casual conversations going on with a few guys over the course of a few days.
I went out for drinks with one person and we hit it off. Good conversation, lots in common, we both laughed a lot… however… he did NOT look like his profile picture. He was a few years older, 20 lbs heavier and less hair. I was kind of expecting something like that in my mind before he showed up, but I was still disappointing that the person I was initially physically attracted to was not the person who showed up for drinks.
I still had a good time. He bought me a drink, we shared some fries, and we talked about our obsession for end-of times preparedness. Not a bad way to spend 2 hours. However, in the back of my mind I was thinking about a few of my friends that I haven’t seen in a while, whom I’d much rather be hanging out with at that moment.
As I drove home that night, it seemed silly, but I did feel adventurous for trying something new and potentially awkward, and having it turn out alright. I also decided that I did not want to give any more time to Tinder, and deleted the app.
To be honest though, a few days before deleting the app I may have had some whiskey and I may have swiped right on a few people I should not have. A few of those people sent me messages and attempted to start a conversation about what they ate for dinner or some cheesy one-liner, and instead of responding, I just deleted the app, thus removing myself from the vortex.
At first, I pondered if I should send a quick message to the people I was chatting with to let them know I was going to go away, to delete my profile…
But then I remembered: I don’t owe you nothin’. You are 5 pictures and 2 paragraphs on the world wide web. You don’t know me and I don’t know you.
I then texted a couple of my friends and made dinner plans with one for an evening next week, and an impromptu after-work hike with another. This. This is how I want to spend my time.
It looks like it took trying something as extreme as online dating for the first time, to inspire me with winter activity ideas. So, make dinner with your friends and drink some wine. Laugh about some of the crazy moments you have shared together, talk about your plans for summer. Give support for something difficult happening in their life. And go outside. Really!! There are far less people on the hiking trails when it is rainy or cold… and far less chance of getting caught when nature calls half way up the mountain!
Check out what the other Portland Bloggers Roundtable crew had to say about Portland adventures anyone can do this winter:
Courtney Tait gets through the rainy season by visiting Portland’s First Cat Cafe plus some fun 21 and over ideas!